My life is busy. I may have mentioned that once or twice...but I have been reflecting on our busy lives over this past week. I know that my typical post is more practical than reflective, but this is where I am today.
When is busy too busy? I have 3 kids, 2 of which are in school. Life is supposed to be busy. We have church commitments, soccer for the 2 older kids (practice and games weekly), martial arts for the big kids - twice a week, my weekly art class, and my husband's men's group, etc. All of these things are good things. And on a perfect week, I feel on top of this schedule. But not this past week. The baby was sick all week, Abby seemed to have an enormous amount of homework (Kindergarten???!!!), and we added doctor appointments and the HVAC cleaning to the list.
How do people do this crazy life with 3 kids without family around?
I asked my friend this question on our way to pottery class. I didn't even get dinner that night because I went straight from martial arts to my class. I ate some Oreos at 9:30 when I got home. So maybe I shouldn't complain about no dinner...they were pretty good.
She gave me a good answer - a lot of people don't do this. The don't have the ability to be super involved at their church, and don't have the time for every kid to have an activity. And then some people hire backup. And Nashville seems to be the place for nannies. I have been mistaken for one at our YMCA pool!
What if I really want all of these activities for my kids but I don't want to hire a nanny? Where is the balance with my sanity? I know some of my desires for my kids is what I like to call rebound parenting. Each generation tries to change something that they did or did not have in their childhood. I want my kids to have the chance to stick with one sport or activity and to do it well. To find their niche and blossom. I didn't have this chance until high school when I found music. I moved a lot as a kid, and often missed soccer registration or just didn't have the chance to stick with one program and blossom. I often think that I could have played soccer into college. I played my eighth grade year, but ended up going to 3 high schools. By the time I got to my last high school, I wasn't at the same skill level as the girls trying out for the team.
So am I creating a busy schedule for my kids out of my own regret or because of what is really best for each kid? They love everything we are involved in...and I want them to learn from a team sport as well as individual sport/activity. I think there are benefits to both. But I didn't have both activities my entire childhood, and I turned out okay. Well, most days I turned out okay.
Balance has been on my mind this week. I find myself encouraging my kids with all of the opportunities that I can give them - but trying to learn when to push them forward and when to get out of God's way.